For any of those who are new to this lifestyle and this type of role reversal.
You are not alone. I am just discovering myself as a “Dominant Male.”
As I am aware of. There is a difference between someone who is a “True Dominant”
and someone who is “Sexually Dominant.”
A “True Dominant” is someone who is taking charge of every aspect their life.
Be it work, love, friendships, you name it.
A “Sexually Dominant” is someone who wants to take charge in the bedroom.
Have reign over someones sexual desires.
Typically in everyday life my personality is very shy and reserved. Yet honest and open and extremely passive.
This new found control is an alter ego for me, as I am sure it is for many others. A disconnect from the normal life.
And my partner seems to be loving this too. As I’m discovering my need to be dominant, strict and stern. She is learning how much she loves to submit and be controlled.
So when you start getting into this. It can also feel a little intimidating.
You may feel a little lost or unsure of what to do or say. I know I did.
And that is where reading and research comes in. Asking more experienced, seasoned people questions. There’s thousands of “BDSM” porn videos to watch and take ideas from. Not to necessarily copy. But to help give you ideas.
After all BDSM has a very broad range in every aspect. There is so many things to do and try. And it’s important to be open and commicate with you significant other and find a dynamic between you and your partner ( Submissive ) that is uniquely your own and tailored specifically for the two of you.
The most important thing is to be confident. Even if you have no idea what you are doing or have no game plan. Go with the flow but be confident! And the reactions, the arousal you will get from bottom ( your submissive, ) will definitely fuel the fire and inflate the ego. Giving each other what you so desperately need.
I am glad to share the experience and I hope that others will share theirs with me!